The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy: What You Think

The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy: Your Thoughts Are Indicators of Where You’re Going

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale

positive thinking

Back when I was a kid, I heard Mom and Ma (my maternal grandmother) talk about saying good things about myself. Norman Vincent Peale’s book had been popular for about a decade and people were talking about the importance of positive thinking.

Just a few years before Peale’s book, The Power of Positive Thinking, was published in 1952, sociologist Robert Merton wrote an article (1948) coining the term “Self-fulfilling Prophecy.”  … [Read More ...]

Do You Believe Everything Your Hear and Read

The Pulse Nightclub Verdict: An Indictment of All Who Perpetrated the Lie

I’m taking a break from my series on self-esteem and self-confidence to talk about the verdict of Noor Salman, the wife of the man who killed 49 and wounded 53 members of the gay community. We were told she helped plan the attack. The trial, however, showed there was no evidence of her guilt except what turned out to be a coerced confession.… [Read More ...]

Mistakes are Not Failures

not a failureMistakes Are Failures When You Quit

Several years ago an on-line journalist make a mistake in the use of the word “penultimate.” People let him have it in the comments section. You would have thought he’d done something which brought the end of the world closer. He didn’t. Instead of using the word to mean “second to last,” he used it to mean, “last.” I’m assuming he continued to write, but I know people who would have quit.… [Read More ...]

Your Family of Origin Sets the Stage for Your Life

The Influence of Your Family of Origin

familyIn psychology we call the family who raised you your “family of origin.” The family you have now, be it through marriage, living arrangements or friends is your “family of choice.” For many, the family of choice builds upon the family of origin. For others the family of choice is as far away from the family of origin as is possible. No matter how different your family of choice is, the influence of your family of origin is with you.[Read More ...]

Choose Your Peer Group Wisely

You Get to Choose Your Peer Group

peer groupWhen you were a kid you couldn’t choose your peer group. You were blessed or stuck with the people your parents put you with. For the most part, your parents didn’t have much choice. They placed you where they thought was best. Sometimes it was best and sometimes it was horrible.

As children, we learned, for the most part, that life was easier if we could make people happy.… [Read More ...]

Low Self Esteem: 10 Causes

10 Causes of Low Self-Esteem

Soooo many people suffer from low self-esteem. Some know the source of it and some wonder why they feel this way.  Many causes of low self-esteem come from childhood. Then there are those who did great and childhood and difficult challenges confronted them. Self-esteem plummeted.

Some have said that we spend the last 60 years of life recovering from the first 18 years. Later in life bad marriage, job difficulties and other problems contribute to low self-esteem

Let’s look at some ways to raise you self-esteem.… [Read More ...]

Why Being Proactive is So Important

Why Being Proactive is So Important

Things are going to go wrong. That’s just part of life. Whether these situations have a large negative impact or are merely minor inconveniences depends on how proactive you are. Living a life of reacting to problems in the heat of the moment magnifies challenges and adds undue stress to your life.

Proactivity minimizes challenges and provides stability in life. It’s easier to be calm, cool, and collected if you’re proactive.… [Read More ...]